I can have my flatulence moments with only the kids laughing at me and I am learning about me. It isnt the first and foremost thing on my mind all day all night, every day every night! We both feel so strongly that we are right for each other, we trully do love each other. It doesnt take much, all it takes is a little time and effort to help you get through this hard time. Completely unaware of what had transpired I was thinking we really needed to talk. I dont think I will ever be able to trust again, I wonder everyday why I even want to remain on this earth if there is so much evil here. After 27 years of marriage, four kids, two grands, my husband packed up. I love him and i have tried to do a lot to make him happy. I swear up and down that I wont go back with her but I know that her not taking her meds had a lot to do with us separating. I split with my ex on Christmas. Thank you for posting this article. I cant get over him.I love him so deeply its killing me inside. Yes, it sucks, but im young, and life does go on i suppose only time will tell if this is a permanent seperation or not. And be careful the dog isn't simply responding to the reactions of other people in the home. Must be so difficult to know that you gave up all this time and energy and money to only be crapped on by someones narcissism. Im still not sure how he just left us like that. I care about love and passion and family, but if I tell him he laughs and says we dont need that. Just feel like venting a bit. Whether you broke up with them or they broke up with you, a breakup can leave you feeling heartbroken. The feeling that if you just change yourself then he will be happy, hell never leave you, and life will be wonderful. I am lost. Your not the only one Focus on yourself and kids. What a cold hearted person after four years the best advise I can give you is feel the pain go threw it and never take him back but please for the sake of your sanity forgive him for leaving you later you see where the mistakes were made and you will thank him for doing you a huge favor. She explains its natural to feel guilt, as its the bodys way of making sense of something unfathomable. I say the same thing. He hutted me so bad and couldnt understand how he could be doing this to. I found out last week that she was in a relationship with another man for several months. Persistent denials coupled with ego aggravates everything . But I would rather have my wife then 10 million $. You can also visit her website Mint Movement here. Instead of focusing on yourself, try to understand what is behind his decision. On a recent vacation she screamed at a elderly relative proclaiming them evil for drinking a glass of wine. But I always get the brunt of their problems I am the one that is mean and I was always the one to buy them all their desires. This is my second marriage and the pain is horrific.. I have had to monitor her medication intake and times for years to ensure her safety (on her request). She told me she was leaving, that she had been unhappy for about a month, and that she needed to figure out who she was, saying that because she hadnt really been single for a lengthy period since she was 18 (shes 22 now) she based her individuality on her relationship. !my son and my daughter in law found me twist the rope around my neck and around the tree but it was broke, I lay lifeless and I know that is divine intervention with my Holy Father anyway my point is is that I would not be able to endure what my husband did to me, without Jesus I mean I begged him on my hands and knees and help me with the pain cuz I couldnt handle anymore and one day he took it from me I no longer have it like I did Im confused now but my husband so I dont know what to do if he were to come back into my life but I would do it because God wanted me to and marriage is sacred to God and I dont want to go against my father I promise you thats the only way youll endure the suffering , and be assured that with every one of my trials and tribulations I have found the blessing the blessings outweigh any thing that we have suffered and we also have to keep in mind look at Jobe what he went through look what Jesus went through for usits only through this Christ that you will find true peace. Think about the parts of Jon that could not be true to Jon because of her. Im 33. My wife left me in Aug last fall. How is it going with the communication now. What would you suggest in regards to your post that you made some days in the past? Everything that was me was up in that condo in the almost 20 year relationship we fought hard to create. Love to hear feedback, please comments welcome. Hating him will only make it harder for you to move on with your life and put this marriage in the past where it belongs. .. Ill need it but Ill make it xo, I disagree with your statement about personality disorders. But the acceptance that he is gone from life doesnt make me hurt any less We have tried marriage counciling but are in a state of wait and see. She walked out about a week ago and she always leaves and never tells me what I have done wrong and she never tried to work through things. I hope you can continue to be strong and take the steps to be in control. My wife started suffering from post partem depression around his first birthday and I have been watching her slowly recede into herself over the last 9 months. I was born with mine. You are going through a wife abandonment situation when your husband suddenly leaves; without notice, without discussion, he's just gone. My husband filed a bogus Restraining Order and threw me out if my home. I was devastated. To make things better. Over time the problems of depression were compounded by more and more episodes of red faced spitting rage. Tonight while in bed at my place we had an argument. I was up all night waiting for her and when she got home at 8 am, it really hit the fan. She was my everything, my whole reason for being. Fact is- the reality might be harsher now. If you would like to talk with a therapist or other mental health professional, you can use our website to find one in your area: https://www.goodtherapy.org/find-therapist.html. They WOULD NOT like that at all. I begged her to stay and to come to couples counselling which she refused, telling me to go to counsell on my own For THIRTY years, I pined horribly over this bull****. I dnt no wat to do. You probably thought we were going to say go get yourself a puppy or something like that. Im done. Sometimes the warning signs of an unhappy partner are there, but you may not clearly see them. Despite this he kept seeing me but would say we have to keep it casual so u can cope. Cant eat or sleep, I feel depressed. His health issues are not serious. The first time was right after I had our first child. We are separated now for 6 months. I do recall a few conversations over a ten-year period of him claiming that he needed more from me, more connection or communication. Maybe I just feel in love with the author. At the end of the day, If someone truly loves you the way you deserve they will not allow you to feel this way. Im so sad and heartbroken and feel like I gave him my heart for nothing, wasted 26 years of my life. He will go the same thing to someone else- no worries. But from her doing that, she emotionally checked out from the built up resentment Im sure. I dont even care how she treats me anymore, but its tearing our son up and that is really hard to see, knowing theres little I can do for him. She then started refusing to answer my calls, refusing to let the kids call me either. I have yet to get the call to come sign them. Sometimes you have to keep telling yourself its not you, its really them and they will get theres on there time. No matter I am around my kids but his stuff is all over her place. This may have nothing to do with you so giving him some space and trying to be supportive for now might help. Can somebody please help????? Its safe to say its probably in the bloodline, and Ive got great role models there. You will meet someone who treats you right and then you will forget all about him. Megan. A week after he left my dad passed away. Years. My husbanda and u got married at a very young age, I was 20 and he was 23. Me finding pills over and over hidden in her car. When we met we had both been divorced so we started with the big stuff. After about a week of begging to see my kids she finally agreed. children. I am livid with her, but at the same time I love her, and would do anything to be able to sort things out and get us back together. You have described your situation and it is exactly as I feel. Listen Im going thru the same thing bro.fiance left me for her young boss..we have a 2 year old daughter and I went from having our own apartment to me moving back with my mother and starting over and shes still dealing with him for the past 4months now. I remained strong on the outside and everyone asked how I kept it together, but that doesnt mean it wasnt extremely difficult and the most traumatic experience in my life. Being a husband and a dad every day. You are also welcome to call us for assistance finding a therapist. He was my best friend, and had promised we could co-parent., My childs father was leaving me. thanks for this im in this kind of situation right now.. On new years eve my fiance left thee house. Can anyone help? I was with her for 95% of every treatment. But I give. I never wanted any sort of separation or break. I think weve grown apart over the years but we still had a comfortable and affectionate relationship. I feel like he blames me for our failed marriage and I know that everything hehas said were all just excuses because he was too much of a coward to admit he was leaving for someone else. I only found out because I found an email n so I emailed her. You worry about getting your head right, and moving on. My issue is that once she wants to leave (imminent), he dosent reciprocate and then she comes back what do I do? 'My husband left me after going into a depression. He just kept saying He insisted I shouldnt go. If you have to question them or yourself 9 times out of 10 there is a good reason for this. Good luck with Thanksgiving maybe they will be nicer to you this year since youre going through this nightmare. But if you cannot have her sort what you want with the kids and remove yourself from the situation as soon as you can so you can focus on your kids and studies. I love my wife so badly that shes been my go to person for anything in my life. There are good people ..you are one of them, I am one of themWe need to keep fighting and believing for those of us out there who do care. Only God can fix this mess. we were so in love and always affectionate when he was home.I am just also so devestated for my son he said he isnt gonna see him anymore he doesnt wanna drag it out but my he always loved my son so much and my son doesnt even remember life without him so he is very sad. I was with someone for 24 years hard-working man entry bands and we went distance are both ways we were living like roommates after while he left me once it records me to claim bankruptcy then he left me October 22 for married woman he was trying to have a relationship it ended in March hes heartbroken he wrote a nasty letter to me pieces he wants out the relationship hes not love with me but he loves me Im going through psychotherapy Lost a lot of weight and I love him I figured keeping away and not pushing him its okay according to the cycle therapist dont know what to do at this point charge when youre 69 and someone leaves you like this I did everything for him that he became a liar and sneak and a cheater so was told by the clairvoyant dont now well I can do is sit back and told him if you want me to come to the band you call me up its eight months hes gone but only two munchies over that girl now it goes online and he looks for women even looked at my webpage I blocked them I think hes doing this to spite me to show we can look for somebody else all he wants is companion to cook for him do his clothes and clean his house Im never find it all I can do is take a day at a time. And it might be wrong but I cant just cut people out of our lives as he has done. Now, I see that dream, it just that, a dream. Its all about him, not me or my children at all. Please let me know how you are doing. Husband suffeing depression has left me - netmums.com